Ryan Houmand

It’s easy to get caught up in the act itself, the main event, even for a Pleasure Dom. Even if you get off by helping someone else get off, it’s easy to home in on getting to orgasm. But if that’s the only dimension you’re looking at, you won’t be maximizing anybody’s experience, including yours.

I started with a couple of things. A vibrator and a glass dildo. You don’t have to go into debt and buy the whole store. Be deliberate about it. And test what you buy to see if it’s going to be a hit. Some things just don’t slap. Over time, I got quite the collection. And when I broke them out on a date, there was lots of enthusiasm, salivating, and other forms of wetness just at the sight of it all.

For years, I resisted the idea of 'masculine energy.' It felt patriarchal, outdated, and too often used as a justification for toxic...